We often hear the phrase “that person is insecure” but what does that mean? It simply means that a person is not secure about things in their life so they compensate for their shortcomings by depending on something else to fill the void. An example may be a woman asking repeatedly “do I look fat” or “do you love me” twenty times a day. She is insecure about her appearance and so she needs constant validation to fill the void. A man may brag on how many women he has slept with and continuously remind everyone of his physique which is really a sign he is insecure about his manliness and needs constant validation.
Can leadership be insecure? Yes! All despots, tyrants, and dictators are insecure. A leader who surrounds himself with screened yes men and women, disguised as advisers, is an indicator that his insecurity can’t handle any opposition. He needs constant validation that every decision and idea is accepted and right. Immaturity and insecurity in leadership will create an oppressive environment and the suppression of freedoms.
Insecure leaders NEED a title to feel validated as a leader. They must use their power to force people’s recognition of their authority. Insecure leadership thrives on the worship and dependence of their citizens. Often they resort to legislative terrorism and rule with a heavy dose of fear created by non-tolerance of anything opposed to them. Sadly, this leadership style is seen too often on the world stage. The citizens are paying a high price living in poverty, lacking access to basic medicines, barely surviving physically and emotionally. All of this perpetrated by leadership that refuses to see itself as the problem. Egotism assassinates growth in ones self because it can’t handle correction or an opposing idea. An easy solution would be to look at the man in the mirror and admit one’s shortcomings and begin to use trusted counselors to repair inner self from the plague of insecurities. Unfortunately, when one is intoxicated with an inflated view of one’s self, it is easier said than done. Not impossible, a leader has to be honest with him or herself.
It is imperative we reach the next generation with the Golden Rule “treating others as you want to be treated.” By doing so, we can lesson the opportunities of future perverted leadership from gaining a foothold. Currently, we can hold leadership accountable to the United Nations Charter on Human Rights.